Divorce Source Radio
FREE podcasts related to divorce and divorce recovery are provided weekly to help get your life back on track. Whether contemplating, going through or just getting over divorce, this is the place for you. Welcome to our community!
 

In this Best of DSR episode of "Ask Henry", attorney Henry Gornbein, answers the question, "Do I  have to pay spousal support?" (Also known as alimony) He also answers the follow-up question, "What's the difference between modifiable and non-modifiable spousal support?"

If you are a woman what could prohibit you from receiving spousal support of even have to pay it to your ex.

Direct download: BoDSRAskHenry6SpousalSupport.mp3
Category:podcasts -- posted at: 3:53pm EDT

Dealing with child custody and visitation is one of the most difficult aspects of getting divorced.  Divorce and child custody cases are often sensitive and emotional matters.

 

In this program, we’ll discuss The different types of child custody, child support, and visitation.  Divorce Source Radio legal correspondent, Henry Gornbein, explains how you can step back from your anger and do what’s in the best interest of your children.  Henry also emphasizes not wasting your financial resources through unnecessary litigation.

 

Henry explains how to have a “game-plan” and provides a step-by-step guide to prepare you for your divorce and child custody case. This is a very important program for anyone divorcing with children. Visit www.DivorceSourceRadio.com for more information.

Direct download: Pgm68ChildCustody2.mp3
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In the first episode of Beyond Divorce, Susan Pease Gadoua discusses dating and sex post divorce.

Dating and sex after divorce can be a challenge.  Pondering what to wear on a date, where to go, who pays, not to mention how you even find people to date in this brave new world of Internet match-ups, is getting over your reluctance to take a stab at it. Why is it so hard?

The post-divorce period can also be a time of new sexual discoveries and these sexual experiences can be absolutely fabulous-and very different from what you were used to, especially as your marriage deteriorated. Susan helps us prepare for the next chapter of our new life in this program.

Topics in the program include:

  • When is it the right time to begin dating after divorce?
  • How to find a date
  • Representing yourself honestly during the dating process
  • Pitfalls of dating to watch out for
  • New sexual relationships
  • Being upfront regarding a STD
  • And much more.
Direct download: Pgm1DatingAndSex.mp3
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In this episode of Divorce Source Radio, our guest, Suzy Bricker, discusses how dealing with her divorce was actually harder than dealing with her cancer.

Eight year ago, Suzy discovered she had cancer and began a journey to regain her health.  After two years of recovery, and dealing with her troubled marriage, Suzy came to the realization that she had to leave her long-term marriage in order to save her life.

Suzy offers advice to women going through divorce, regardless of their age and explains that with the right mindset, a healthy and happier you awaits at the journey's end.

Topics in the program include:

  • How to deal with the loss of a spouse during tough times
  • Reinventing yourself after divorce
  • Dealing with loneliness
  • Steps to attain independence
  • Letting go of anger and acceptance of your new reality
  • And much more

Direct download: Pgm67Cancer_v_Divorce.mp3
Category:podcasts -- posted at: 8:03pm EDT

Our guest, Joan Kelly PhD., a Clinical Psychologist, is an internationally recognized expert on divorce and children’s adjustment and interventions designed to assist parents and enhance resiliency in children. Dr. Kelly has been studying the impact of divorce on children since 1968. She is an author, therapist, mediator, and parenting coordinator with four decades of experience working with high conflict parents who are separating.

Dr. Kelly shares her insights and wisdom on telling your children about your divorce-- providing script ideas and important messages. She will guide you through the conversation and preparation you need to do.  Having this conversation is not one most parents want to have, as only 5% of parents actually sit down and explain to their children about this significant change in their life.  Yet, telling your children about separation and divorce is critical if you truly want to do what is in your children’s best interest, and minimize the negative effects of divorce on children. 

To obtain more information on talking about separation and divorce and to purchase Dr. Kelly’s booklet: What Should We Tell the Children, written for the Association of American Matrimonial Lawyers contact www.aaml.org

Topics in this program include:

  • Why is it so important to talk with your children at this time
  • Why do parents find it so difficult to talk with their children?
  • Preparing to talk with your children about the separation
  • What to say to your children and how do you say it?
  • What to say to your children about why you are separating
Direct download: Pgm20JoanKelly.mp3
Category:podcasts -- posted at: 11:37pm EDT

From the "Best of DSR" series comes Co-Parenting Peacefully for Your Children.  This has been one of the most listened to programs on DSR.

If you’ve decided to separate or get a divorce and have children, your next important decision should be about co-parenting.  Divorce may be the end of a marriage, but it is not the end of the family.  People who separate but continue to work cooperatively as parents give their children the best chances for a smooth adjustment to living in two separate households and continued growth.

Psychologist, Dr. Larry Friedberg shows us ways to communicate with your ex without hostility for the good of your children.

Learn how to:

  • Be respectful of your ex spouse.
  • Resolve conflicts and discuss major issues privately, not in front of the children.
  • Not confide, complain or grumble about your ex to your kids – you need family, friends or a therapist for that role.
  • Not use our kids as messengers between you and the other parent.
  • Assure our kids that both parents will listen to feelings and address needs cooperatively.
Direct download: Pgm66BoDSR_Co_Parenting.mp3
Category:podcasts -- posted at: 11:48pm EDT

Create your Future NOW -  Divorce offers you the Chance to Create the Life You Want and Deserve!

Although it might be hard to see if now, your divorce has many hidden gifts in the form of life lessons and deep wisdom that will evolve you as a human being and allow you to move forward into a new and vibrant life.

Create the Vision of a New Life and Your Future

To create a new way of being, you must have a clear vision of who you are becoming and the life you choose to live.  Identifying what matters to you now and what your passions are is the starting point.  Visualizing that Future Self and your New Life allows us to work backwards from that vision, so that we can begin taking action steps today towards your goal.

In this episode of Divorce Recovery, Shelley Stile helps you create a vision of your future self. Shelley discusses how to find what truly has meaning for you and what you are passionate about. Once you are clear about your priorities, you are then free to create a vision of your future; a future that you know will give you the gifts of a life well lived.

Creating a new life concentrates on the positive act of creating, not the negative act of problem solving. Problems, or challenges, will always arise in any journey but it is how we handle these challenges that will be the mark of our character. The real work is in the act of creation. Begin creating your new life and future today with the help of Shelley Stile.

Direct download: Pgm10CreatingAnewLife.mp3
Category:podcasts -- posted at: 12:26am EDT

So you think divorce in America is difficult?  Well, believe it or not, divorce in other countries is even more challenging than in the States.

In this program, Steve Peck speaks with Liz, from Ireland, who explains how difficult divorce is in her country. Liz speaks with first-hand experience, as she just recently received her divorce, seven years after filing. 

In Ireland, women are at a tremendous disadvantage, as spousal support is rarely provided by the courts, leaving women to fend for themselves. Divorce Source Radio legal correspondent, Henry Gornbein, joins us as we explore the vast differences in our legal systems.

Direct download: Pgm64IrelandDivorce.mp3
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Forgiveness is a miraculous act that serves as a release valve that propels us forward into a new life after divorce. To forgive is to be truly free, to be unencumbered by the past. The problem or challenge with forgiveness is that it is very difficult and oftentimes near impossible for us to go there, especially if we are leaving an abusive relationship of some sort. How can we forgive really bad behavior? How can we forgive someone who has wronged or betrayed us?

There are two important elements of forgiveness: what it is and what it gives to us. Forgiveness is the ability to let go of blames, resentments, upsets and negative emotions we hold against a particular person. In order to achieve forgiveness, we go through a process that begins by separating the person who we are forgiving from their behavior. We do so because forgiveness does not mean that we condone someone's bad behavior. We don't.

Here is the greatest gift of all: self-forgiveness. By forgiving someone else, you also forgive yourself. You can stop beating yourself up. You can see your own inner child who desperately needs your love and compassion, not your constant judgment and criticism. You can return to state of wholeness. You can have the freedom and power to create your best life possible.

Join Shelley Stile in this episode of Divorce Recovery on Divorce Source Radio and learn how forgiveness can move you towards a healthier and happier new you.

Direct download: Pgm9Forgiveness.mp3
Category:podcasts -- posted at: 7:49pm EDT

Debate may never resolve whether fault based marital conduct codes once were a positive force for stability in marriage, or solely the focus of ever greater contentiousness in divorce process. One thing is certain. They are gone. Their vestiges may remain on the face of a few statutes in some states, but their force in law is no more.

Yet, marital conduct codes expressed in terms of grounds or fault were inarguably important in at least one sense. The very existence of these legally enforceable standards mitigated the risk of investing in marriage. Compliance with those minimum standards ensured that marriage would be protected by law, that the investment in marriage would be secure. Conversely no fault in its essence is a system without standards, a code without relation to conduct. Unavoidably, the process it spawned left marriage without protection. In eliminating the problems of fault based divorce, the good was thrown out with the bad, the baby with the bath water.

Divorce happens to good spouses because the rules of marriage changed; more appropriately speaking, the rules were thrown out.   As such, marriage today is sacrificed on the altar of expediency in a court process that simply finds it more efficient to divorce people than to examine the merits of marital commitment. In exchange for less stress in court, we have more injustice for marriage. This is by design. Divorce happens to good spouses because the law no longer cares to distinguish between right and wrong, good and bad in marriage. - Kevin Senich

In this episode, Attorney Kevin Senich discusses no-fault divorce, divorce reform and the need for education as a means of keeping the family unit together.

Direct download: Pgm63SenichNoFaultDivorce.mp3
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