In this episode of Divorce Source Radio with Steve Peck, Attorney Henry Gornbein and Therapist Susan Pease Gadoua discuss the legal and emotional side of divorce.

When people enter into divorce, it seems it's all about the legal aspect.  We soon realize that divorce is an extremely emotional time in our lives.  If one or both of the parties have a controlling mindset, the situation can become more hostile, potentially leading to a lengthy, destructive, and unnecessarily expensive divorce process.  Tempers flare, heels dig in, and none of it leads to satisfaction in the end.

Susan shares tips on how to navigate your divorce in a more peaceful manner and shows the value of therapy.  Henry provides advice on dealing with an attorney who is trying to stir the pot between you and your ex.  Susan reminds us of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, which suggests that people are motivated to fulfill basic needs before moving on to other, more advanced, needs. If you're worried about your survival, it's hard to get to a place of love. If safety and esteem are an issue, you can't get to self-actualization.

This is a "must hear" for any of our listeners new to the process of divorce.  For more on Susan Pease Gadoua, visit: www.SusanPeaseGadoua.com, and for Henry Gornbein, visit: www.Family Law of Michigan.com.  (This program was recorded at The Divorce Expo in Novi, Michigan).

Joanie, Lesley and Steve are back on Single Again! Now What? with tons of stuff to talk about!  They begin by celebrating Joanie's birthday and move on to the Top Five Men's and Woman's Needs in a Relationship. Our trio then discusses the best selling book, Fifty Shades of Gray.  (You just knew this was going to turn to sex didn't you?)

Other topics discussed:

• Filthy hotel rooms
• Is your ex a narcissist or just an asshole?
• It it acceptable for a man to cry at movies?
• How couples deal with fnances
• And much more.

Towards the end of the show, Joanie offers a FREE personality profile and review  to the first listener who writes in and requests  this fun, informative assessment.  (DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com) You could also be featured on our next show to have your profile revealed.  Don't worry about your name on the radio, we can provide an alias if requested.  This is a great offer valued at $100.00, and the same assessment Lesley and Steve took a few weeks ago.  Good luck being the first to write in.

Narcissism used to be recognized as a mental disorder, according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, or DMS, Manual.  In the revised DMS-Five edition, narcissism will no longer be considered a mental disorder, prompting the question, "If my ex isn't a certifiable narcissist, is he/she just an asshole?" Are these labels one and the same?

Dr. Banschick breaks it down for us and explains narcissism as we once knew it. He then explains how one may not be a narcissist, but rather, a selfish, self-centered asshole.  If you think you have been dealing with this type of person, this is a show for you.

For more information on Dr. Banschick, visit: www.TheIntelligentDivorce.com.

Has anything every stood in the way of having a healthy, sexual relationship with your partner? In this episode of Sex after Divorce with Sex Therapist, Juliana Neiman, we learn how to create better future sexual relationships.

Topics discussed in the program:

• Dealing with past regrets
• Learning to express anger in healthier ways than drinking, eating, etc.
• Entering into future relationships with realistic expectations
• Visual your life in a positive way now as a failure

For more on Juliana Neiman, visit: www.JulianaNeiman.com

One of the most important concerns parents have post divorce is how their time is to be shared between their children.  Is there such a thing about the right parenting plan or how parenting time is shared?  In this episode of The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch, our guest Dr. Phil Stahl  has some very insightful answers. 

Dr. Stahl is one of the North America’s foremost parenting experts; a practitioner, author, and teacher, specializing in high conflict families of divorce. He has served on numerous committees and task forces designed to improve the quality of work in his field. He teaches judges, attorneys, psychologists and other mental health professionals about issues affecting families and children. His expertise is accepted in courts across the country. 

If you are a parent going through a divorce, you will want to learn more about custody evaluations and some of the issues affecting families and children. This show is insightful for grandparents and step-parents…..or anyone who wants a better understanding of the parenting plan and putting the children’s best interests first.   

Topics include:

• Communication blunders, and apologizing to our children for our mistakes
• Wise advice from Dr. Stahl’s book – Parenting After Divorce
• What makes a good parenting plan
• Parenting plan ideas
• Parenting through conflict
• How to share your child – your child is not a percentage

For more on Dr. Stahl, visit: http://www.parentingafterdivorce.com/index.html

With divorce, single parent households and family crises on the rise, many people are experiencing the tumultuous dynamics of step-families.  In this episode of Divorce Source Radio from The Divorce Expo in Novi, Michigan, the author of Blended Families, Valerie Coleman joins us.  

As a step-mother, stepdaughter and now step-grandmother, Valerie has experienced the drama and reward of life in a step-family from multiple perspectives. For years, she struggled to parent five children from three different households. She instilled respect into her two biological sons and assumed the same respect would be honored by her husband’s children. At times, the frustration overwhelmed her. Without the support of family and friends, her marriage would have failed. 

If you are experiencing issues within your blended families, this is the program for you.  For more on Valerie Coleman, visit: www.ValerieJLColeman.com.

Joanie, Lesley and Steve are back with more laughs and deep thoughts than ever before!  In true Single Again! Now What? form, the show changes  topics faster than a speeding bullet.

One of the most challenging things about divorcing with children is dealing with your ex.  For some in high conflict divorces, this is an impossibility.  The goal is to keep the lines of communication open for the sake of your children.

In this episode of Divorce Source Radio with Steve Peck, Debbie and Frank Cona join us and discuss how they managed to redefine their relationship for the sake of their children.  Initially, this was a challenge for them, but they learned to work through their issues and now co-parent their children in a healthy way.  Frank and Debbie, although divorced, remain very good friends and lead a divorce recovery class at the Rochester Hills location of Bethany of Southeastern Michigan.

If you're having a tough time co-parenting with your ex, this is a must hear program.  For more information on Debbie and Frank's group, visit: www.bethanyofsoutheasternmichigan.org.  (This program was recorded at The Divorce Expo in Michigan.)

In this episode of Divorce Source Radio with Steve Peck, divorce coach Karen McMahon joins us to discuss Fear During Divorce.

With all the changes that are happening at once, it's like the ground beneath our feet is shifting and moving. Suddenly what lies ahead is unknown.  During fear, our "what if’s" are never positive. What if I lose custody, can’t afford the house, don’t have enough money to live on, cannot find a job…

In fear, we begin to distort reality.  Much like a circus mirror, fear leaves us seeing only a distorted view of our reality. Karen helps us understand where our distorted ‘fear reality’ comes from and offers hope and a healthier way of looking at our current situation.

For more on Karen, visit: www.KarenMcMahon.com

One of the sad realities of divorce and the outcome is fatherlessness.  In this episode of The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch, we discuss the need for fathers to stay involved in their kids lives, especially during and after divorce.

It is more common for father’s relationships to be thinned out more than mothers.  While a lot of attention and research has focused on single-parent families where the parent is the mother, limited attention has focused on single-parent families where the father is the parent. Single-father families are a small, but growing segment of our society. But what happens when dads aren't involved?

Deborah Moskovitch and Steve Peck explore this issue, and help provide an understanding of fatherlessness, while providing ideas for staying connected.

Did you know:

• Up to 25% of children do not see their father by 2-3 years after divorce
• Daughters that do not have a relationship with their father are more likely to have long term emotional issues – are more promiscuous and less likely to graduate from high school and college; while sons are more likely to exhibit delinquent behavior
• 80% of the daughters and sons in the U.S. only live with their fathers for a maximum of 10 to 15 percent of the time after their parents divorce

Tune in to discover what can be done and how you can overcome these obstacles. There’s been research that shows when fathers are more involved in their kids’ lives -- they are less likely to divorce themselves. 

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