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In this episode of Divorce Source Radio with Steve Peck, we explore what Freud called “the unconscious” –  the collection of repressed thoughts, wishes, fantasies and drives, many of which have an aggressive quality. What is the relevance? Inside these unconscious conflicts lies the answer to why we are attracted to and or seem to attract a certain kind of person.

The show is called Conscious Dating and our guest is Elizabeth J. Tupling, MS, TLLP is a psychotherapist specializing in individual, and family therapy, and maintains a private practice in Huntington Woods, Michigan.

For  the person who is wondering why they are always drawn to the “bad boy” or “bad girl”, the addict, the emotionally and or legally unavailable person, it’s important to “open up the hood and look underneath”.   What we’ll usually find is a long standing, established pattern of being attracted to the same kind of person, and not knowing why.  Like a moth to a flame, we drift toward exactly what we consciously know is not healthy for us – it’s a real primitive, primal process that originates in early “imprinting” in the brain.  This imprinting creates an unconscious definition of how relationships should feel for us – good or bad.

The challenge for the listener is to examine what feels “good” in the early stages of an attraction.  And if the person is doing a truthful inventory of these feelings they might find that subtle cues of rejection, the need to chase, dismissal of one’s needs, justification of disrespectful behaviors, all feel vaguely familiar, comfortable and worse off, comforting.  Doesn’t make sense does it?  It usually doesn’t, it’s unconscious.

For more on Elizabeth Tupling, visit: www.MySoulGrowth.com.  For more programs on divorce and life after divorce, visit www.DivorceSourceRadio.com

Direct download: Pgm137ConsciousDating.mp3
Category:podcasts -- posted at: 7:23pm EDT

Single Again! Now What? is back!  This time Joanie and Steve are looking for answers to questions women have about men.

Joining us on the show is the author of the award winning book Seeing With The HeartWilliam Lacey is a social commentator and we discuss the development of "spiritual sight". His book also speaks about the opportunities for the personal growth and transformation during difficult times of trial and change. William provides a man’s perspective (with Steve’s help) to the most pressing questions that women wonder about men including relationships, faith and social issues. Don’t worry ladies, Joanie shared the woman’s point of view as well.

Some of the questions women have about men:

1) What are the things that turn a man off when he is just getting to know a woman on the first couple of dates?
2) How can a woman be sure there won’t be affairs in a relationship?
3) Why do men feel they need to fix everything when I simply want to be heard?
4) Why won’t men stop and ask for directions?

For more information and to order the book, go to www.SeeingWiththeHeart.com.

Also on the show: Ever dream of being on the radio?  Here's your chance!  Lesley finds herself becoming more tied down with her company with less time for Single Again! Now What?  We're going to miss Lesley's wit and wisdom on a regular basis and we're looking for someone to fill her shoes. Listen to this show for more information on auditioning for our show.  Good luck!

Visit www.Facebook.com/SingleAgainNowWhat for single again resources, show info and much more.  For more free programs related to divorce, visit www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.

Direct download: Pgm59WilliamLacey.mp3
Category:podcasts -- posted at: 11:46pm EDT

Part 5 of our series, The Anatomy of An Affair continues with David Feder.

Listener note: This is Part 4 of this series, and if you are finding this program through our archive directory, iTunes or Stitcher Radio, it is advised you begin with program 1 and follow the podcasts in their original order.

In this episode, David answers questions on might have if they have been involved in an affair such as:

  • Should I agree to therapy with my partner if he hasn’t ended his affair yet?
  • What is the best way to end my affair with my Affair Partner?
  • How do I make my partner feel safe when he/she pushes me away.  It’s frustrating and I am feeling hopeless.  I can’t seem to do anything right.
  • How do I rebuild trust after an affair?  Are there steps to follow?
  • What about sex after an affair?  I don’t feel like it but I’m afraid if I say no, it will be my fault that my partner goes back to his Affair Partner?
  • What is Forgiveness?
  • Should I tell my children about the affair?
  • Affairs in the workplace - What do I do if you both work at the same company?

For more on David Feder, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAn Affair.com.

Direct download: Pgm136AffairsPt5.mp3
Category:podcasts -- posted at: 4:18pm EDT

Our guest, Matthew Sullivan, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, who specializes in forensic child and family psychology. He has been in private practice for 20 years, specializing in Forensic Family psychology.

Dr. Sullivan is a pioneer in the field of Parenting Coordination, , and has led the development of Parenting Coordination across the U.S. He is one of the most experienced Parent Coordinators (called Special Master in California) in the country.  In 2012, he received the Joseph Drown award from the California Association of Family and Conciliation Courts for “outstanding services to children” in the state.  He has written articles, presented and done training at numerous national and international venues on topics such as high-conflict divorce, Parent Coordination, Forensic Consultation Court-involved therapy and Child Alienation.

In this episode of The Smart Divorce we explore the benefits of a Parenting Coordinator, and the importance of this professional while helping co-parents reduce conflict.  We also discuss the difference between Parenting Alienation and an estranged relationship with children – and how to repair and rebuild your relationship with your children. 

We explore so many issues and ideas related to co-parenting and your children’s best interest.  Topics include:
•    What is a parenting coordinator
•    How you might benefit from using a parenting coordinator
•    What’s the difference between a parenting  coordinator vs. mediation vs. co-parent counseling
•    What is the difference between parent alienation and estrangement
•    Tips for parents to improve the relationship with their children
•    How Dr. Sullivan helps families come together with the reunification program – Overcoming Barriers
•    How the Forging Families program can help the whole family.

To contact Dr. Sullivan, please visit his website at http://www.californiaparentingcoordinator.com
For more information about Overcoming Barriers High-Conflict Divorce Camp visit http://overcomingbarriers.org
Don’t miss out on this important conversation, and find out how you can minimize conflict, and improve or save your important relationship with your children.

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Direct download: Pgm55MattSullivan.mp3
Category:podcasts -- posted at: 12:29am EDT

Love Hormones on Single Again! Now What?

Joanie and Steve are back with the Love Doctor, Edward Lichten, M.D. to discuss the love hormone Oxytocin, as well as his Honeymoon cream that helps women achieve better orgasms.

The dynamic duo also discuss:

  • Joanie's new program, Finding the Work/Play Balance with Your Relationship
  • How to deal with a partner that doesn't know how o have fun
  • How we let our guard down in relationships
  • Steve falls asleep while counseling a friend
  • How to find your special purpose in life
  • And much more.

Visit www.Facebook.com/SingleAgainNowWhat for single again resources, show info and much more.  For more free programs related to divorce, visit www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.

Direct download: Pgm58LoveHormones.mp3
Category:podcasts -- posted at: 10:10pm EDT

Part 4 of our series, The Anatomy of An Affair continues with David Feder

In this episode we take a look at why affairs happen.  David discusses the different types of affairs and what recovery entails.

We also explore what you should do when you suspect your spouse is cheating and help you understand why the affair happened.

Listener note: This is Part 4 of this series, and if you are finding this program through our archive directory, iTunes or Stitcher Radio, it is advised you begin with program 1 and follow the podcasts in their original order.

For more on David Feder, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAn Affair.com.

Direct download: Pgm134AffairsPt4.mp3
Category:podcasts -- posted at: 12:30pm EDT

This week on Single Again! Now What?, Joanie & Steve are celebrating the return of spring and the hope that summer brings.

Joanie answers a couple of listener questions on the show, including one from a mom that wonders, does it make you a bad mom if you feel the need to medicate in order to cope with hectic life of raising your kids?  Joanie discusses what she learned from Dr Maurie Pressman s book, Living In The Supermind, and shares how this book helps us better understand the process or quieting our negative mind chatter without the need for medication.

Other topics discussed include:

  • The power of meditation
  • The new Single Again! Now What? Facebook page
  • Summer concerns for skin cancer
  • Youth sports and girls softball
  • Major League Baseball is back!
  • How the more you try finding the perfect mate, the less likely you are to do so.
  • And much more.

For more on Joanie, Lesley and Steve, visit the Single Again! Now What Facebook page or write them at: DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com. For more programs related to divorce and life after divorce, visit www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.

Direct download: Pgm57Spring2013.mp3
Category:podcasts -- posted at: 10:37pm EDT