Divorce Source Radio
FREE podcasts related to divorce and divorce recovery are provided weekly to help get your life back on track. Whether contemplating, going through or just getting over divorce, this is the place for you. Welcome to our community!
 

(Listener Note: This is Episode #12 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order.)

Today’s show is the final and most exciting as we explore the unlimited possibility life offers when we intentionally create each step of our journey with a willingness and desire to engage fully utilizing all our gifts, talents, skills and passion.  With each completed effort we joyfully surrender the outcome, having faith that whatever it is, it is the perfect and only next step for us.  Upon that outcome being either in-line with our desired goal or different, we assess, integrate what we have learned, recalibrate our plans and re-engage.

This is the practice of SESI.  SET your intention, ENGAGE 100%, SURRENDER the outcome, INTEGRATE your experience and lessons and begin again.  We expect the unexpected.  We are comfortable with change.  We embrace all learning opportunities.  We are fully alive, fully engaged and fully responsible. No worries.  No regrets.  Only the present moment and the belief in ourselves and in unlimited possibility.

For more information on Karen and Journey Beyond Divorce’s 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

Stay tuned for more shows from Journey Beyond Divorce!

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(Listener Note: This is Episode #10 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order.)

Today’s show is about utilizing all you have learned in the previous ten steps to design and move towards your ideal post -divorce life now, regardless of if you are pre, in the midst of, or post divorce. See how to put it together to create a more encompassing perspective and begin to experience life as an unpredictable adventure that you have the power to influence profoundly.  Hear how,  by assuming full responsibility for your life, you can engage with a creative freedom and use your power to direct yourself towards the life you desire. 

Receive a powerful navigation tool,  the MIFR, which is both a broom and a life compass.  It allows you to sweep your mind clean of old ways of reacting using Mindfulness to analyze any reaction before you take action. Using Inquiry to correct your course of action through Focus, and finally navigate to destinations of your choosing by Reframing your perspective.  The MIFR allows you to take action in ways supportive of your goals, sweeping away perspectives and actions that have undermined your success in the past.

For more information on Karen and Journey Beyond Divorce’s 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com

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Our Guest is Retired US Navy SEAL Darek Laviolette author of A Seal to Heal Your Marriage. Derek spent 24 years of active duty service, with 9 combat deployments. He’s also the recipient of the Bronze Star with Valor.

His new book A SEAL to Heal Your Marriage is the result of an 8 year marriage which ended after losing his wife and family to divorce.  Derek has rebuilt a life he loves and is reaching out to help others with through his book.

Darek’s passion for healing marriages stems from personal experience and his childhood influences. Darek’s exposure to self-help as a child forced him to understand what happened to his family, and after his own marriage collapsed, he spent the better part of a decade learning what happened and how to use his own experience for the greater good – keeping other families intact.

For more information on Derek, visit: http://www.asealtohealyourmarriage.com/

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(Listener Note: This is Episode #10 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

Today’s subject is about trust and tuning inward to access one of the  greatest resources we have - our own inner, intuitive guidance and wisdom. There are people in our lives that we turn to for guidance and wisdom when we are faced with uncertainty and important decisions. This is very valuable. AND there are so many times when we hear another’s advice and know it’s just not right for us. There’s no one who knows more about you, your situation, your values, your strengths and vulnerabilities than YOU. Wouldn’t it be great to know that you have inside you all the resources and wisdom you need to come up with the best course of action to take in any situation? The key lies in accessing more of your discernment process than the logical mind or gathering more and more data points.

In today’s podcast, we will talk about intuition, what it is, how it shows up, what gets in the way of our accepting it as an important part of our thinking and decision making process, what is possible when we pay attention to it, and the consequences of ignoring the intuitive messages we receive. There is a lot of literature written about how to distinguish the voice of your inner guidance or intuition from the voice of fear, contraction, or your inner critic. We will discuss some ways you can distinguish the source of that voice in your head saying “Yes, let’s do it!”...or “NO!!!!!!”  Also, we will give you some steps for cultivating your intuition so that it becomes a strength that you can learn to trust and rely upon.

For more information on Karen and Journey Beyond Divorce’s 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

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(Listener Note: This is Episode #9 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

It is normal to feel hurt, anger, blame and resentment while going through divorce.  It is a devastating and traumatic transition, one that we all resist and that no one escapes without experiencing these painful feelings at some point in the process.  In today’s show, Karen McMahon and Karen Basmagy discuss the pitfalls of living in resistance and the benefits of learning to accept what is.

When we feel stuck and overwhelmed, it is a red flag that we are resisting what is happening to our lives.  It sounds something like, “This isn’t happening!”, “I can’t believe s/he is doing this!”, “It wasn’t supposed to be this way!”, “This is all my/his/her fault”.  When we are in resistance, we remain stuck in blame and disbelief and unable to move forward.  We unable to see our part in our dissolving marriage and unwilling to consider the possibility in life after divorce.  Resistance adds more stress and tension into an already difficult situation.

The key to stepping into the possibility that your future holds is to learn to accept: accept the choices you made, accept the way your spouse behaves, accept that you marriage is dissolving and the divorce is happening.  By resisting, nothing changes except that it is harder and more stressful.  By accepting, we begin to move through the hard time.  Acceptance opens up choices and we can see more possibility with each decision we make. Acceptance enables us to channel our energy into what we do have control over.  Listen in and follow the suggested action steps to help you move through your divorce.

For more information on Karen and Journey Beyond Divorce’s 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

 

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David Feder returns with The Anatomy of An Affair on Divorce Source Radio.

This podcast deals with the cheating partner and his/her decision whether to recommit to their partner or stay with their affair partner.

Not everyone will want to stay together after an affair but through a model that David has created called VISION, he offers a program that helps people make a choice that is right for them.

As a couple David helps individuals grieve the loss of their “old” relationship, rebuild the trust that was lost and helps them build a new relationship.  The risk of a future betrayal is reduced because an emphasis is placed on rebuilding trust and increasing self-esteem by finding the lost self that is so often a result of an affair.

For more on David visit: www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com.

 

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Steve Peck welcomes new listeners and Facebook followers from India in this episode.

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(Listener Note: This is Episode #8 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

Divorce is a time of upheaval and chaos.  Life as you’ve known it is changing daily in ways small and large.  You are responsible for many to do’s to manage the change. Exactly where all this change is leading is unknowable yet your mind is in overload attempting to predict your future or figure out the past.  In this 8th show of Journey Beyond Divorce’s 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program Karen McMahon, founder of Journey Beyond Divorce, and her partner Lisa Brick discuss the importance of leading your head to where your feet are or, bringing yourself to and staying present in the moment.  

It is an ingrained habit of mind to time travel to attempt to figure out the unknowable.  When we get lost in reflections of the past or fears projected onto our futures we waste the present by disabling our ability to be effective in the one place that is real and where we have power,  right here and right now.  Karen and Lisa discuss why staying present in the moment eliminates the feelings of powerlessness that so many individuals experience during divorce, how it does that, and what easily accessible tools and effective practices are available to bring you back to and keep you in present moment awareness.  It is in this present moment that you are powerful to choose and take considered and strategic actions to navigate wisely and well through your divorce as well as the rest of your life.   

If you are interested in gaining from the pain of divorce join Karen and Lisa and let them guide you in understanding how you are intensifying that pain, how to begin minimizing it, and how to use present moment awareness to make your journey through divorce and beyond as easy and pleasurable as possible.  

For more information on Karen and Journey Beyond Divorce’s 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

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Everyone divorcing has a particular version or story of what happened to their marriage and why.  This story is usually from a singular personal perspective, yours.  Your spouse has another story, also singular and personal. Unless your spouse is truly delusional, both stories have a basis in truth yet neither encompasses a whole truth.  

In the 7th show of their 12 Step Divorce Recovery Series Karen and Lisa explore the concept of “story” as differentiated from “what actually happened”.  They provide practices and skills that allow you to become aware of  your story as only one of a number of versions so you can begin to own your part in the unfolding and unraveling of your marriage with compassion and understanding.  

As you begin to question your story and look at other ways of interpreting the personalities and events involved, there is a freedom to recognize your role in what happened.  By stepping out of your story and beginning to own your role you open up the possibility of learning and growing through understanding rather than being frozen in place by judgement.

You will be introduced to ways to detach from your story, free yourself from being a victim of circumstances, recognize and change behaviors that have not been working for you, find acceptance and forgiveness for both yourself and your imperfect companion, and enjoy a broader range of choices and options that lay hidden behind your story.  Simply, you will meet the perspectives and tools that will allow you to grow and heal through your pain.  

For more information on Karen and Journey Beyond Divorce's 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

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(Listener Note: This is Episode #6 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

I keep getting stuck in what was. 2 tools to shift your gaze from the rear view mirror to the front windshield during divorce.  With Karen McMahon and Sheila Knopp (Step 6 of a 12 Step Series)

It is both normal and easy to label ourselves and / or our spouse as bad or wrong during divorce.  We can live in regret or with rose color glasses as we keep our eyes glued to the rear view mirror.  Our judgement of the past, which is often unconscious thought behavior, locks us into the hurt and pain that we so deeply want to escape.

Today’s show invites you into a new practice of Curiosity.  It considers what might happen if you didn’t firmly believe you knew everything… the why and how, and the motivation or thought behind every action.

While our judgement keeps us stuck in old thought patterns that add to our suffering, curiosity opens the possibility for new learning, growth and healing.  See how letting go of your judgement of the past enables you to embrace the possibility of the future.

For more information on Karen and Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

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