Mar 5, 2020
High conflict personalities drive
high conflict divorces. If you have been married to and are
divorcing this type of personality, today’s show
helps you to understand the traits common to this personality type.
You will begin to understand your spouse’s inability to manage
his/her emotions, their black and white thinking, extreme behaviors
and tendency to blame are common to his/her personality and not
Our guest expert, Virginia Gilbert is a family and marriage therapist. She also sheds light on your part in the unhealthy dance of high conflict divorce. Most partners of high conflict personalities are caregivers or codependents, an equally unhealthy role in the relationship dynamic.
We discuss the tendency of the codependent to want to change the HCP, keep the peace, be triggered and reactive and take the HCP’s behavior personally. Virginia speaks to the trauma of being married to such a personality and the impact it has on your nervous system and therefore your behavior. Learning to trust yourself, put your needs first and heal your broken sense of self are a few of the topics covered in today’s conversation.
The good news is your high conflict divorce can be a catalyst to focus on yourself, develop healthy perspectives and behaviors, heal and become empowered and renewed.